Monday, March 16, 2015

Grateful Heart: My Husband

Grateful Heart w/ Ember Grey
This weekend was full of things to be grateful for, but today I am grateful for my husband.
I have talked a little about Matt on my blog, never really much in detail, but this guy deserves the spotlight.

I met the man that I would marry in high school. Well, I was in high school, he was a rock star in a local band.
I worked at Hot Topic in our mall and he came into the store and gave me a demo of his bands CD.
He was{and is still} so handsome.
We went on our first date the day before I started my senior year of high school, almost 10 years ago this August. 
He was my escort for my homecoming and prom, even though he was waaaayyy too cool for that. 
FIY this dress was my mom's for her junior prom, I think. I LOVED this dress. I spent HOURS sewing on the gold sequins to the top.


We're on the far right. Check out Matt's blonde mohawk folks.


We spent every possible moment together that year. We went to concerts, his band's concerts and other bands we loved, we went to movies, we talked on the phone{that was still a thing!} we dreamed and planned.
I knew that I loved him, this boy that was still just a boy.   
When I was making college decisions, Matt quit the band and came with me to Benedictine in Atchison, Kansas.
We were scene before scene was a thing yet.

He proposed on Christmas break our Freshman year of college. I obviously said yes, but I had no idea what we would be faced with, or how difficult things would be at times. I did know, however, that I loved him, with my entire soul.  
We were just babies! This was taken with a disposable camera and then scanned onto my computer. My phone didn't take pictures then, ha!

We moved to Springfield, MO in the summer of '07. Matt had decided to pursue an Engineering degree and Benedictine didn't offer an engineering program then. 
We moved into our first apartment in June and both found jobs before school started in the Fall. I worked in a daycare from 6AM-6PM and went to school for a few hours in between working. Matt went to school in the afternoon and worked every night until 10PM and worked every weekend as well. We saw very little of each other. 

After living in Springfield for a year, we bought our first house.
We moved in June of '08. It was a cute little house that we put our heart and soul into fixing up and making our own. 
That Fall as we prepped for our wedding, I was going to school, working at the daycare, working at Hot Topic in the Springfield mall, and working in a Sunday School for an Episcopal church. Matt was going to school and working full time at O'Reilly. The most time we spent together was probably the week before and after our wedding that year.

We were married on December 20th, 2008 in the church that my grandparents, and parents were married in and our current church home.  
One of my favorite photos from that day.

Marrying this man, was the best thing I have ever done.



Nailed it.
After we were married, we saw very little of each other, which is never easy. We were both still growing and learning who we were as our own people, as well as who we were as a couple. It was very lonely for both of us. Work and school dominated our lives because we knew the end result would be worth all of the sacrifice. Our marriage took a backseat and suffered dearly, but we both held on because we knew God had a plan for us, for our lives, and I was not giving up on the boy, now man, that I was still so in love with.

When Matt graduated, we didn't know how to move forward as a couple. Mason was a year old and I was pregnant with Ellie. Things were strange and difficult because we had spent our entire marriage waiting for this moment and now it was here and we didn't know quite what to do to fix our relationship, but God knew.
God worked in both of our hearts to fix the heartache and strangeness that was our marriage. We spent the first 3 years of our lives together as husband and wife, basically apart, but God pulled those strings that still tethered Matt's heart to mine and drew us together and drew us closer to Him.
We did not have an easy road in the beginning, but it has been worth every rocky step. I would still choose this life, over and over.

Last year, we renewed our vows in front of family and friends, in the same spot we had made our original vows.

God gave us a chance to be newlyweds and I am so, so grateful for this opportunity to continue to fall in love with the man that I have loved since I was 17.

We have now been married for 6 years.
Matt is everything I could have ever asked for in a partner, husband, best friend.
Today, I am grateful for him. I am grateful for a God of second chances. I am grateful for pure stubbornness. I am grateful, that even when people specifically try to tear us down, we are there to build each other up and encourage one another. I am grateful for people who help to build up our marriage, instead of tear it down. I am grateful for a love that continues to grow. 
I love you Matthew. 

"But from the beginning of creation, God made them male and female. Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh. So they are no longer two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man seperate." Mark 10:6-9

What are you grateful for today?

How can I pray for you?

All My Love, 
Meg









8 comments:

  1. Meg, this is so unbelievably awesome! I'm such a sap for romance and love stories so this just sang to my heart. I love that you both love sooo deeply and that you both allowed God to guide your marriage. Happy Monday love!

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    1. Thanks Doll!! It is so hard to let go so God can do his thing, but it's so necessary!
      Love you sista!

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  2. Megan, that was fabulous to read and of course I'm sitting here with tears in my eyes. It its so easy to let life (or a new baby) get in the way of our relationship with our spouse. Thanks for the reminder to take some time with Rob today, and not just when we are passing Finley back and forth. May you guys have many, many more years of joy together!

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    1. Thank you so much!!
      It is so hard, especially with a new baby, to stay focused on your husband when there are so many other directions you are being pulled in! I hope you guys have a great weekend and we are always here when you need a night to yourselves!!

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  3. AH i LOVE this. Everything from the blond mohawk to Hot Topic to who you guys are today. So perfect!

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    1. Hahaha! We were definitely the kids that got the side eye from adults, but we were good kids. I have missed you darling!!!!

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  4. Oh. my. gosh. Alright well for one, I still just love your heart, Meg. It is so good. Second of all, I adore the two of you.. not JUST because you guys both rock totally and outrageously cool fashion statements, but because you both trusted God to keep you together, and what's more- He made it completely new. Awesome. God is AMAZING.

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    1. Em, why can't we live close enough to get coffee?!
      The hardest thing was to let go of the people who were feeding our troubles and encouraging us to speak poorly of the other and not be content in our lives. Once we followed that part of God's plan, he has worked in our lives abundantly!

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